TRANS* & Nonbinary

She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life With a Transgender Husband

Helen Boyd’s spouse, who had long been open about being a cross-dresser, was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly, Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to transitionas a woman — socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way?
Boyd’s first book, My Husband Betty, explored the relationships of cross-dressing men and their partners. Now, She’s Not the Man I Married is both a sequel and a more expansive examination of gender in relationships.

As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don’t, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.

Content warning: This was published in 2007 and may contain dated language.  This is from the perspective of a cis partner of a trans woman who transitioned during their marraige.